This post is going to be a bit unusual and I can’t promise you it will be educational, but it will make you smile.
I am going to go out on a limb here and say that everyone reading this has, at some point, stepped on a scale and can relate to what I am about to say.
It’s also a pretty good bet that, at some point in your life, you have responded to your scale in anger. I know I have been guilty of it in the past.
Last week, I was getting ready for my weekly weigh in. I removed everything I possibly could and stepped onto the scale. There was nothing else to remove, I even trimmed my goatee, and I was still three pounds heavier than the week before.
When I was done yelling, cursing and crying, I realized how much my wife and the bathroom scale have in common.
- Honesty! The scale tells it like it is. Even though we may accuse, the scale won’t lie to you. Does the truth hurt? Sometimes, but the truth is still the truth and there is no sugar coating it.
Honesty is something I cherish and value in my relationship with my wife. Although I would prefer she not be brutally honest sometimes, honesty is necessary in a healthy marriage.
- Drama Free! To my knowledge when I walk out of the room, my scale doesn’t call up other scales and tell them how much I weighed or if I lost or gained a pound.
About the time my oldest daughter hit middle school, I was diagnosed with a severe allergy to drama. My wife and I both agree drama is best suited for middle school girls and we try to eliminate it, if possible, in our relationship. We also do our best not to take on other people’s drama.
- Non Judgmental! If I mess up and gain a pound or two this week, my scale doesn’t judge me.
Likewise when I mess up, my wife doesn’t pass judgment. She doesn’t look down on me, she just loves me and accepts me for who I am.
- Patience! If I go two or three weeks and don’t lose any weight, my scale is willing to give me all the time I need to get it together. My scale listens, patiently, as I try to justify my lack of weight loss.
I have been married to my wife for almost 12 years. Now you may not know this about me, but I am an entrepreneur and a dreamer. Do you have any idea how many crazy business ideas I have had in 12 years? I can’t even tell you, but I bet she can.
Every time I have a new idea, she is the first one to hear about it. I call that a blessing, but I think she considers it a curse. Regardless of how big or crazy the idea might be, she takes the time to patiently listen.
She doesn’t always agree or let me jump into something that I will regret later, but she is always willing to hear me out.
Although I don’t recommend you start comparing your spouse to the bathroom scale or any other appliance, for that matter. I do want to encourage you to evaluate the qualities you have in your spouse or significant other.
If you can’t list at least five things you love and appreciate about that person, then perhaps you need to look in the mirror and evaluated the person you see.
If you’re not attracting the kind of person with the kind of values you want, it might be because you are not the kind of person that a person with those values is looking for.
If you know someone who could benefit from this information, please consider sharing it. If you have questions, you can always email me at Tom@askTomSwan.com.